The Challenge of life
Welcome to Mental Toughness.
It is in facing the challenges of life and everyday living that we discover ourselves and find our inner strength. If we confront our anxieties and stare life squarely in the eye; we can find opportunity in adversity and possibility in uncertainty. By engaging with life's ordeals and choosing action rather than avoidance; we can find the courage to live our lives more deliberately; with passion and purpose.
I'm Phil Pearl, I specialise in coaching, training and hypnotherapy for mental toughness. My focus is helping you meet the challenges in your personal and/or professional life. It's all about confidence, confidence to be yourself and confidence to be, who you can be.
Here you will find details of my private practices in Harley Street and Kensington and why people come to see me. I also provide coaching by phone or Skype as well as training and courses. On this site there are also articles and information on anxiety, procrastination, self-esteem, confidence, mental toughness and resilience.
About me
I am on the faculty at The Institute of CBT Coaching and the The Institute of Clinical Hypnosis. I am on the executive committee for the Society of Psychotherapy. I am the founder of the UK CBT Group and The UK Psychotherapy and Coaching Group on meetup. com. I am currently studying for an MA in Existential Coaching at The New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling. My previous corporate experience is as an operations director for a number of media analysis companies. My key focus in coaching and hypnotherapy is confidence in self, relationships and work. My approach to working with confidence and Mental Toughness within coaching and hypnotherapy is based on Existential Coaching and Rational Emotive & Cognitive Behavioural Coaching.
TRAIN TO BE A LIFE COACH AND AN EXECUTIVE COACH
If you would like to train to be a life coach or train to be an executive coach then details of courses at the Institute of CBT Coaching are here at The Institute of CBT Coaching
The UK CBT Group
If you are interested in CBT Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and coaching I have created a group on "meet up". Everyone is welcome. Our members include a diverse group of professionals, students and individuals interested in CBT and other approaches to psychotherapy, counselling, hypnotherapy and coaching.
Our events include live demonstrations of CBT Coaching and Therapy with Professor Windy Dryden, one of the leading practitioners and trainers in the UK in the Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) tradition of psychotherapy. The group also aims to provide a forum for information, networking and socialising. Everyone is welcome, whether you are a therapist, coach, teacher, trainer or interested in your own personal development, the group is open to all.
Here's the link The UK CBT Group
The UK Psychotherapy and Coaching Group
If you are interested in approaches other than CBT to psychotherapy, counselling and coaching then I also run another group on meet up "The UK Psychotherapy and Coaching Group". This group accommodates a wider range of disciplines. You are welcome to join the group here. The group is open to all and everyone is welcome.
Here's the link The UK Psychotherapy and Coaching Group
An Act of Courage
Wanting to change or improve ourselves is natural, we may all be aware of areas in our lives where we would like to be different, do things differently, have more confidence or make improvements. We may have an idea of what attributes we would like to have or change and some idea of where we are now and where we would like to be. It could be that we make the decision, that there are some things in life, which, we are no longer willing to accept or indignities that we are no longer willing to suffer. However, knowing that there are things we could change is one thing - having the courage and confidence to change is another. Some people may feel that changing and seeking help to change, is admitting defeat or a sign of weakness. Nothing could be further from the truth, seeking to change is an act of courage and a sign of mental strength and good mental health.
Mental Toughness is a set of skills, beliefs, attitudes and philosophies that enable us to enhance our thoughts, emotions, behaviour and physiology. These skills give us confidence and help us in the pursuit of our aims, objectives and survival. Mental toughness is having a relentless commitment to our goals; it is the ultimate in persistence and focused action. Mental toughness is a discipline that we can use in many areas of our lives. Mental toughness is a philosophy for actively engaging in life and living. I believe that at its heart, Mental Toughness is Existential Toughness; facing the challenges, absurdities and limits of life with courage, in order to find meaning and purpose in existence.
Resilience is having the ability to cope, adapt and succeed during change and adversity; having the ability to get up from life's knocks and bounce back stronger with greater confidence. Resilient people problem solve, adapt and reinvent themselves to new realities; they seek opportunities in changing conditions. Resilient people do not see themselves as victims or become helpless and hopeless.
Why do people come to see me?
People often see me because they are going through changes in their personal or professional lives and need confidence or help to adapt and cope with the demands of their new reality. We all have our ups and downs, the difficulty is when our conditions or the environment changes but we have trouble adapting to them. It could be changes such a promotion, demotion, redundancy or a change of career or personal relationships. We all need the ability to adapt and evolve; this is key to our survival and happiness.
In their personal lives, people may become aware of things they would like to differently, have more confidence with or be more effective at, such as relationships, family and social concerns. Some people may have had a difficulty or anxiety for a long time including behavioural or emotional difficulties. Often people may be anxious or worried about certain situations in their lives. A key point is that we may over estimate a perceived threat to our well being, self esteem, careers or relationships. There may be a miss match between what we perceive is happening in the outside world and how we interpret the threats and demands in our inner world. We may make assumptions and inferences about others, the world, or ourselves that are unhelpful - damaging our confidence and blocking us from our aims and objectives.
We all have areas in our lives that we would like to improve or where we lack confidence. We may need to make changes, move outside our comfort zones. As our world changes we need to increase our mental toughness, resilience and confidence to take on new challenges and cope more effectively with the demands of life. Here are some areas to consider:
Confidence: To face the challenges and demands of life head-on, we need unshakable confidence and indestructible self-belief. Building Mental Toughness and confidence is vital.
Anxiety: Is a catalyst for change and action. By facing our anxiety and staring life squarely in the eye, we can find opportunity in adversity and possibility in uncertainty.
Sex, Lies and Relationships: We know ourselves through others; whether at work, socially or personally, our relationships define us. Our emotions enliven our existence.
Resilience: Change, adversity and setbacks are inevitable. We need to evolve and adapt to new realities, rather than be victims of circumstance. Resilience is reinvention. Fight back.
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Existentialism: Mental Toughness is Existential Toughness; facing the challenges, limits and absurdities of life with courage and finding meaning in our existence.
What types of people come to see me?
All types of people see me; we all have difficulties and challenges in our lives at some time or other, the key is to take action and do something about it. It's also a fact that good mental health and good mental strength is something that we constantly have to work at in the same way that we need to continuously work at physical health and physical strength. Therefore I regularly see people who may have no pressing issues, but it is important to them to maintain confidence, mental toughness, resilience, awareness and introspection - looking to constantly work at it. By maintaining our mental toughness, resilience and confidence we are better prepared and can adapt easier when changes inevitably happen.
How many sessions do people need to see me for?
As few as possible, the key is always to do the work in the minimum amount of sessions. Of course the number of sessions depends on what the issue is and how many issues there are, but again, we are looking for results in the shortest possible time and the minimum amount of sessions. In general people see me between one and six sessions. Sessions will often be one or more weeks apart (this is flexible) and clients will often have work and practise to do between sessions. I am very keen that people can learn the techniques and skills in order that they can help themselves in future and are therefore self-reliant and independent. It is also important to be evidence based wherever possible, we can do this by setting clear goals. Therefore we will know if we are getting closer and achieving our aims or whether we need to re-adjust and refine our approach.
What about organisations and corporate clients?
I provide training/coaching sessions for individuals at all levels. I also provide training courses for departments, teams or across organisations
Concepts such as mental toughness, confidence and resilience apply collectively to groups and companies as well as individuals. A company may lack collective confidence and resilience. They may also have collective problems such as low morale, productivity, motivation and performance. I work within the company's aims and objectives. The content of courses includes the attitudes and skills of mental toughness and resilience.
The Winning Edge
Mental toughness and hypnotherapy are excellent tools for training your mind and making it sharper and more focused, not only when the going gets tough, but also to maintain mental fitness and concentration. This mental training gives you access to the resources you need, to combat stress, anxiety and frustration. You will think clearly and deal with life's demands, head on and with confidence. As a result you will be calmer, more able to relax and get a good night's sleep. You can learn methods that enable you to achieve deep relaxation and mental focus, these are mental toughness tools for life that you can use daily or as needed, whenever you need to perform or be focused and calm.
For mental toughness, resilience and confidence, I use the following methods and I also teach them to you, so that you can use them for life. I work in partnership with you, so that you can think clearly and deal with life's demands and pressures head on.
Hypnotherapy
Our memories are stored as mental images - some good, some bad. We all create images in our minds of what we want and don't want to happen or how we would like to be. Having mental toughness means that we can control our mental images so that they are "getting us where we want to go" and rather than causing us fear, anxiety and uncertainty they give us confidence.
Hypnotherapy is an excellent tool for training your mind and making it sharper and more focused, not only when the going gets tough, but also to maintain mental fitness, confidence and concentration. This mental training gives you access to the inner resources you need to deal effectively with life's challenges and demands and to cope with stress, anxiety and frustration. You can learn methods that enable you to achieve deep relaxation and mental focus. As a result you will be confident, calmer, more able to relax and get a good night's sleep. Hypnotherapy is a tool for life and I teach self-hypnosis so that you can use these methods whenever you need to.
Rational Thinking
How well you cope with pressure and stress can determine how successful you are in reaching your goals. Life can be stressful but rather than run away from stress and anxiety, we can learn how to effectively cope with it and increase our tolerance and resilience. Learning to access and use our natural relaxation response means that we can get a grip on stress and deal with more stressful situations. Mental stress and anxiety manifest themselves in our physical bodies and are harmful to our physical health and immune systems. Learning relaxation techniques means that you are able to relax your mind and body at any time and in any situation, allowing you to increase your confidence, remain calm, centred and in control.
Traumatic Incident Reduction is a non-hypnotic, person-centred, simple and highly structured method for permanently eliminating the negative effects of past traumas. Past traumatic incidents might include events where we were (and continue to be) adversely affected, such as crime, accidents and violence whether or not there is a formal definition of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). A traumatic event can also be an event that has left an impression that causes us to over-react or react inappropriately in certain situations. TIR is also effective in the treatment of anxieties and phobias.
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My Qualifications
I am qualified in Clinical Hypnotherapy and Psychology. My qualifications are,
Diploma in Clinical Hypnosis (DCH)
Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Psychology (DHP)
Master Clinical Hypnotherapist (MCH)
I trained with the Institute of Clinical Hypnosis, where I now help to train students.
I trained in Traumatic Incident Reduction at TIR UK, London.
I have studied Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling at The New School for Psychotherapy and Counselling, London.
I have studied Existential Coaching and Coaching Psychology at the Existential Academy, London.
I have trained staff at the Foreign and Commonwealth Office (FCO), Teachers at Pupil Referral Units in Greenwich, London and corporate clients in London.
Membership of Professional Bodies
Registered on the General Hypnotherapy Register (GHR Reg).
Validated practitioner with the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council (GHSC).
Accredited by the National Regulatory Register for Hypnotherapy.
Nationally Registered Hypnotherapist (NRH).
Member Association of the Institute of Clinical Hypnosis (AICH).
Member of the Society for Existential Analysis (SEA).
Member of the Society of Psychotherapy (SoP)
Associate member of the Royal Society of Medicine, London (RSM)
Appointments
If you would like further information, then please give me a call for a free pre-consultation discussion by telephone, without any obligations (you may go through to my receptionist or an answering system, please leave a message and your details and I will call you back) or write me an email. Then if you are happy to work with me, we can book an appointment.
